Nowadays, we live according to many social norms. And most of us try to fit the standards set up by their surroundings.
I am sure so many of us remember those times when parents were pushing us to have excellent results in all subjects at school. Because when a child had “A”, It was considered he/she was well disciplined and smart.
From the other side, how one person could have the same accomplishments in totally different subjects, like Maths and Languages, Computer sciences and Art?
One more question. How many of those successful school graduates had great achievements in their further career and most importantly were happy about their lives?
Our family and friends definitely wish us all the best. Sometimes they have their perfect vision of our lives.
But the thing is that achieving things others want from us will not make us happy unless we want it from the bottom of our hearts.
My parents are doctors. And until the end of my school, they were sure that I will enter a Medical University. They were so convinced in it that never even asked me a question about what I wanted to do in my life. And they were shocked when I announced that I didn’t have any desire to actually work in this field.
Some of my friends did a complete career change when they were over 30. They just couldn’t do what they didn’t like anymore.
My point is that it is very important to learn how to make decisions and choices based on your own desires.
Before taking important steps in your life just ask yourself: “Which decision I would take if no one judged me?”. And the answer to this question will be the right thing to do.
The most important task for you is to learn how to listen to your true feelings, desires, and dreams, following them instead of those which others choose for you.
So here is a small daily exercise which will help you to know yourself better:
Every day complete a sentence “ If I knew nobody judged me, I would...” with three points.
And one more thing. It is never too late to implement changes:).