I am sure each of us was blaming circumstances for personal or professional failure at least once. Some of us keep doing it regularly.
Recently I realized that for the past to years I had been living in a blaming circumstances mode.
We had to move to the new country with my husband because of his work. One of my biggest dreams was to achieve professional growth. But I’ve got stuck in the new country and every day I tried to find at least 10 reasons why I couldn’t work or open a business there. I decided that I didn’t know language and culture good enough, the economic situation was inappropriate, that I needed to work more on my idea and so many other things.
So I basically put myself, my dreams and goals in a waiting mode for around two years, while complaining about not favorable circumstances.
But the thing is that I was the one who decided to do it, the one who went into deep thoughts instead of taking action, the one who created limits in my head.
And you know what is the most tricky thing about putting responsibility for your life on others? One day you realize that it is totally out of your control.
So did I. Nothing seemed to depend on me, so there was no point to try changing things.
In psychology this behavior called playing a victim role.
So here is the main rule. If you really want to implement changes in your life, don’t be afraid to take full responsibility for it. Your past, present, and future depends only on you.
No matter how hard you try to blame others for the events of your life, each event is the result of choices you’ve made.
Please notice, that blaming yourself for the past mistakes DOESN’T MEAN taking responsibility. Blaming yourself, same as blaming others means being a victim of circumstances.
Taking responsibility means forgiving yourself for the past mistakes, accepting your past and taking 100% of control over your present in order to achieve the things you want in the future.
In order to create a positive habit, I suggest you to go through a 7-day challenge.
The rules are very simple. For 7 days you WILL:
• Stop blaming yourself and others;
• Stop complaining;
• Take responsibility for your thoughts and actions.
Once you pass the challenge, please share your experience in the comments below.